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You're in the middle of sex when suddenly there's an unexpected sound, someone says something that lands wrong, or you end up in an awkward tangle of limbs. The mood feels shattered. You freeze, feel humiliated, don't know whether to acknowledge it or pretend it didn't happen. Here's what you need to know: awkward moments during sex are completely normal. They happen to everyone. The difference between couples who maintain intimacy and those who let it derail everything is kn

You can have all the desire, communication, and technique in the world—but if your environment is working against you, genuine intimacy becomes significantly harder. You can't be vulnerable and present while notifications buzz, laundry piles up, harsh lights glare, and you worry about interruptions. Your nervous system can't fully relax when the environment signals stress. Creating the right environment isn't about luxury—it's about crafting conditions that allow both people

You've been reading about guided intimacy and you think "this is what we need." But now you're stuck on the hardest part: how do you bring this up with your partner without it sounding like criticism? How do you suggest trying something new without making them defensive? Talking about wanting to change your sex life is vulnerable. But with the right approach, this conversation can deepen your connection rather than create distance. Here's how to introduce guided intimacy to y

You're having sex with your partner, and suddenly you're thinking about work emails, grocery lists, whether you look okay from this angle, or if your partner is actually enjoying this. Your body is there, but your mind is everywhere else. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Mental distraction during sex is one of the most common complaints—and one people are too embarrassed to admit. Here's what you need to know: a racing mind isn't a personal failing. It's normal. But

In a world that glorifies intense, urgent sex, there's something revolutionary about going slow. Slow and sensual intimacy isn't just a nice alternative—it's often the pathway to deeper pleasure and more profound connection. But most of us don't actually know how to slow down. We rush through foreplay, focus on efficiency over experience, and treat sex like a destination rather than a journey. If you want to rediscover what it feels like to truly be present with your partner,

A sexual bucket list is a way to articulate desires, spark conversations, and give yourselves permission to dream about what your sex life could include. Creating one with your partner can be exciting and connecting—or awkward and challenging if your lists look different. When approached thoughtfully, it becomes more than a to-do list. It's a tool for deepening intimacy, understanding desires, and keeping curiosity alive in your relationship.

You have fantasies or desires that fall outside "standard" sex, but your partner is perfectly happy with vanilla sex and shows no interest in exploring what excites you. Can a vanilla partner become kinky? Can someone who's never expressed interest in kink learn to enjoy it? The answer is complicated and deeply individual. Some people can expand their sexual repertoire and discover new interests. Others have boundaries that won't change. Let's talk about what's possible, what

You're tired of always being the one to initiate. You want to feel desired, pursued, chosen. But how do you make that happen without nagging? The truth is, you can't "make" your partner initiate sex. But you can create conditions where they're more likely to, remove barriers that might be getting in the way, and have conversations that help them understand why initiation matters to you. Here's what actually works.

We're thrilled to announce the release of "Guided: Why We All Need a Guide in the Bedroom"—a groundbreaking book revealing how guided intimacy can transform your relationship from predictable to electric. After eight years of marriage and three kids, we'd fallen into maintenance mode. Then one Tuesday night, we discovered the transformative power of guided intimacy. This isn't about techniques—it's about presence, and guidance is what makes that presence possible.

If your partner has significantly lower libido than you, should you just stop having sex altogether? Stop initiating to avoid making them feel pressured? The question comes from genuine care—you don't want to impose on someone who doesn't want it. Here's the complicated truth: complete abstinence is almost never the right answer for couples where one partner has lower (but not zero) libido. But neither is maintaining a dynamic where one person feels pressured and the other fe

You initiate sex and your partner seems neutral—not excited, not turned on. Maybe they need convincing until you start touching them, and then suddenly they're into it. If this is your experience, you're dealing with responsive desire. And if you don't understand what that is, you're probably feeling rejected and unwanted. Here's what you need to know: responsive desire is not low desire or lack of attraction. It's simply a different arousal pattern, and understanding it can

There's a stark difference between couples who can talk openly about sex and couples who can't. Sex-positive couples aren't necessarily having more sex or wilder sex—they have a framework for approaching sexuality with openness, curiosity, and communication rather than shame or silence. The benefits extend far beyond the bedroom. When couples embrace sex-positivity together, they build stronger communication, deeper trust, and more satisfying relationships overall.

Many men are curious about increasing their ejaculate volume—whether for fertility reasons, personal satisfaction, or because porn has created certain expectations. Here's what you need to know: ejaculate volume varies significantly between individuals, and 1.5-5 milliliters is completely normal. But if you're interested in optimizing your volume, there are evidence-based strategies that can help. Let's separate fact from fiction about what actually works.

There's a pervasive narrative that men who aren't getting enough sex become irritable and difficult—give them regular sex and suddenly they're pleasant and easy to be around. But is it actually true? Does sex make men less grouchy? The answer is more nuanced than "yes, sex fixes everything" or "no, that's nonsense." Let's dig into what's actually happening when sex (or lack thereof) affects male mood and behavior.

You know that feeling when you look at your partner and realize you're functioning more like roommates than lovers? The intimacy that used to come naturally has quietly disappeared, replaced by routine and responsibility. Here's the good news: intimacy isn't something you either have or don't have. It's something you can actively cultivate and rebuild. If your connection feels flat and you want to inject genuine closeness back into your relationship, here's how to get an inti

We've been sold a story about great sex: urgent, overwhelming, all-consuming passion. But here's what nobody talks about: intensity and intimacy are not the same thing. In fact, they're often inversely related. The most intense sex isn't always the most connecting. And the most intimate sex isn't always the most dramatic. Understanding the difference can transform how you think about your sex life and what you're actually seeking from it.

The idea of recording yourselves during sex can range from thrilling to terrifying. For some couples, it's an exciting way to add novelty and capture chemistry. For others, it triggers immediate anxiety about how they look or where footage might end up. Both reactions are valid. Recording intimate moments can enhance your sex life—but only if you approach it thoughtfully, communicate clearly, and prioritize safety alongside the fun. Here's how to do it right.

The internet is full of claims about anal orgasms. Some people swear they're the most intense orgasms possible. Others insist they're just hype. So let's cut through the noise: Are anal orgasms real? Can anyone have them? What's actually happening physiologically? Here's the truth: anal orgasms are absolutely real for some people, completely elusive for others, and somewhere in between for many. Let's break down what we actually know.

You have a sexual fantasy that feels weird, taboo, or confusing. Maybe it's something you'd never want to do in real life. Maybe it contradicts your values. And now you're wondering: What does this mean about me? Am I secretly a terrible person? Here's the relief you're looking for: your sexual fantasies probably don't mean anything deeper about who you are or what you secretly want. Let's talk about what fantasies actually are and why you can stop worrying.

Morning sex has a reputation problem. Bad breath? Morning hair? Haven't showered yet? Who wants to deal with all that when you're barely conscious and trying to make it to your first cup of coffee? But here's what we want you to consider: morning sex might actually be the secret weapon your sex life has been missing. There are real biological and practical reasons why morning intimacy can be incredible. Let's talk about why it's worth trying.