Communication & Connection

Few relationship topics generate more heat and less light than body count. Here's what the research actually shows — including a large cross-cultural study in 11 countries — what it doesn't show, why the question gets asked, and what actually predicts relationship quality.

The question circulating in the Married Sex community on Reddit — "do you and your partner use each other to come?" — has traction because it names something a lot of couples are doing but not examining. Here's the honest answer: when it's healthy, when it becomes a problem, and what the presence dimension reveals about the difference.

One-way intimacy is one of the most painful experiences in a long-term relationship — showing up for the intimate dimension and feeling like you're showing up alone. Here are the three most common causes, the conversation worth having, and what changes when both partners genuinely understand what's happening.

Most answers to this question are either reflexive condemnation or reflexive permissiveness. Here's the honest version — what the research actually shows about pornography's effects on relationships, the mechanism behind those effects, and the specific questions that determine the answer for your marriage.