Introducing "Guided": Transform Your Relationship From Routine to Electric

Coelle
Nov 4, 2025
4 min read

We're thrilled to announce the release of "Guided: Why We All Need a Guide in the Bedroom"—a groundbreaking book that reveals how guided intimacy can transform your relationship from predictable to electric, from distant to deeply connected.

This isn't another sex advice book filled with techniques and positions. It's about something much more powerful: the science-backed practice of guided intimacy that's helping thousands of couples rediscover excitement, deepen trust, and create connection that gets stronger over time—not weaker.

The Story Behind the Book

After eight years of marriage and three kids, we'd fallen into "maintenance mode." Our sex life was predictable, our connection felt distant, and intimacy had become another item on our to-do list.

Then one Tuesday night, we discovered something that changed everything: the transformative power of guided intimacy.

What we learned—and what this book reveals—is that the secret to extraordinary connection isn't just passion. It's presence. And guidance is what makes that presence possible.

What Is Guided Intimacy?

Guided intimacy uses external guidance—whether through audio, your partner's voice, or structured frameworks—to quiet mental chatter, reduce performance anxiety, and unlock levels of connection you never thought possible.

Drawing on cutting-edge neuroscience and real stories from couples who've transformed their relationships, "Guided" shows you exactly how guidance rewires your brain for better intimacy and why it works when everything else feels stuck.

What You'll Discover Inside

The neuroscience behind why guidance works—and how it literally rewires your brain for better intimacy. You'll understand why your mind races during sex, why performance anxiety kills desire, and how guidance creates the neural conditions for genuine connection.

The four categories of guided experiences:

Slow & Sensual: Building connection through unhurried touch and presence
Bold & Playful: Exploring adventure and excitement within safety
Energy & Touch: Harnessing physical sensation and arousal
Role & Fantasy: Creating psychological depth through imagination

Step-by-step session examples that show exactly what these experiences look like in practice. No theory without application—you'll see real frameworks you can use tonight.

How to become a skilled guide who creates safety while inspiring adventure. You'll learn the specific skills for guiding your partner (and being guided) in ways that build trust and excitement simultaneously.

The language patterns that invite rather than pressure, opening up new possibilities for connection. Words matter, and you'll discover exactly how to communicate in ways that make your partner feel desired rather than obligated.

Troubleshooting strategies for when things don't go as planned. Because they won't always. You'll learn how to navigate awkward moments, mismatched expectations, and the inevitable challenges that come with trying something new.

How guided intimacy principles transform your entire relationship—from conflict resolution to parenting to daily communication. The skills you develop for intimate guidance ripple out into every aspect of your partnership.

This Book Is Different

It's grounded in neuroscience. You'll understand the actual brain mechanisms that make guided intimacy so powerful—not just anecdotal claims, but real science about attention, arousal, and connection.

It's practical and specific. Every concept comes with concrete examples. You'll know exactly what to do, what to say, and how to navigate the experience.

It's honest about challenges. We don't pretend this is easy or that every couple will have the same experience. We address the real obstacles and how to work through them.

It's about more than sex. While guided intimacy transforms your physical connection, the principles apply to emotional intimacy, communication, and partnership in all its forms.

It normalizes needing help. The core message is that guidance isn't a sign of failure—it's the path to extraordinary connection that most couples never discover because they're trying to figure everything out alone.

Who This Book Is For

"Guided" is for couples who:

Feel stuck in predictable patterns and want something more
Have fallen into "maintenance mode" where intimacy feels like obligation
Struggle with mental chatter or performance anxiety during sex
Want to deepen connection but don't know how
Are curious about new experiences but feel awkward initiating them
Have tried other approaches and still feel like something is missing
Want the science behind what actually creates lasting intimacy
Are ready to develop real skills for presence and attunement

Whether you've been together for months or decades, whether your relationship feels stuck or simply ready for something more, "Guided" provides a proven framework for creating intimacy that feels both deeply safe and thrillingly alive.

A Message About This Approach

You've probably tried everything else. More date nights. Better communication techniques. Reading books about love languages and attachment styles. Maybe therapy. Maybe hoping things would just naturally get better.

And maybe some of it helped. But if you're reading this, something is still missing.

What if the answer isn't trying harder—it's learning to be more present? What if extraordinary intimacy isn't about technique, but about the neural conditions that allow two people to be fully with each other?

That's what guided intimacy creates. And that's what this book teaches you to do.

Your transformation starts with a simple question: What would happen if you stopped trying to figure it all out yourself?

Get Your Copy

"Guided: Why We All Need a Guide in the Bedroom" is available now at Amazon.

This book will show you:

Why your current approach isn't working (and what actually does)
The exact neurological mechanisms that create extraordinary intimacy
Step-by-step frameworks you can use immediately
How to guide each other toward deeper connection
Real stories from couples who've transformed their relationships

Whether your relationship feels stuck or you're simply ready for something more, this book offers the framework thousands of couples are using to create intimacy that gets stronger over time.

Because you don't have to settle for maintenance mode. And you don't have to figure it out alone.

Ready to experience guided intimacy for yourself?

Download the Coelle app for audio-guided sessions, exercises, and ongoing support that bring the principles from "Guided" directly into your relationship. Because transformation happens through practice—and we're here to guide you every step of the way.