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About six months into our journey with guided intimacy, my wife Brittney and I realized we'd been having sex in essentially the same two or three positions for most of our eight-year marriage. Here's why your brain needs physical novelty, and twelve positions that can help couples rediscover curiosity and presence with each other.

If you're curious about guided audio intimacy, the next question is: which app should you use? Several apps offer different approaches—some focus on solo pleasure, others on couples connection. Some offer extensive libraries, others curated selections. We've explored the major players to help you understand what's available and which might be right for you. Full transparency: we created Coelle, so we're biased. But we'll give honest assessments of what else is out there.

You remember the beginning—you couldn't keep your hands off each other. Now, years later, that intensity is gone. You love your partner but you don't want them the way you used to. The magnetic pull has faded. You wonder if this is just what happens, if passion is inevitably replaced by comfortable companionship. But desire doesn't have to disappear in long-term relationships. Wanting each other can exist after years together—it just requires understanding what happened and a

You know you "should" have sex more often. So you agree to it, go through the motions, and you're glad when it's over. Or maybe you're always initiating and can tell your partner is just doing you a favor—not really there, not enjoying it. When sex becomes obligation, it poisons the connection it's meant to create. But the obligatory feeling isn't really about sex. It's a symptom of deeper issues in how you're relating, communicating, and understanding desire. Let's talk abou

You and your partner want different things in the bedroom. What turns you on leaves them cold. What excites them does nothing for you. Here's what most couples don't understand: you might not be sexually incompatible—you might just have different Erotic Blueprints. Understanding these five arousal styles can be transformational for your intimate life. And when you understand how guided intimacy serves each blueprint, you unlock a powerful tool for creating experiences that wo

You've read articles, scheduled date nights, gone to therapy, tried everything you can think of. And nothing has changed. Your sex life is still unsatisfying or nonexistent. The intimacy you're craving still feels out of reach. You're exhausted from trying and starting to wonder if this is just how it's going to be. This is one of the loneliest places to be in a relationship. But before you resign yourself to sexual mediocrity or start planning your exit, let's examine what "

You've heard about guided audio intimacy—following audio guidance during intimate experiences with your partner. The idea intrigues you, but you have questions. What exactly is it? How does it work? Won't it feel weird to have someone else's voice in the room during sex? If you're curious but uncertain, you're not alone. Let's break down everything you need to know about guided audio intimacy, from what it is and why it works to how to actually try it. Think of this as your c

Before kids, you had spontaneous sex and uninterrupted time together. Then kids arrived and everything changed. Now you're exhausted, touched-out, and your partner has become a co-parent first and lover second. The idea of sex feels like one more thing on an impossible to-do list. This is one of the most challenging transitions couples face. But it's possible to reignite passion after kids—not by returning to your pre-kid relationship, but by building something new that honor

You're living together, managing logistics, maybe raising kids—functioning well as a team. But somewhere along the way, you stopped being lovers. You stopped flirting, prioritizing intimacy, looking at each other with desire. You're roommates who occasionally have obligatory sex, not partners with an alive, evolving intimate relationship. This is one of the most common and painful dynamics in long-term relationships. Let's talk about why this happens and how to shift back fro

You're in the middle of sex when suddenly there's an unexpected sound, someone says something that lands wrong, or you end up in an awkward tangle of limbs. The mood feels shattered. You freeze, feel humiliated, don't know whether to acknowledge it or pretend it didn't happen. Here's what you need to know: awkward moments during sex are completely normal. They happen to everyone. The difference between couples who maintain intimacy and those who let it derail everything is kn

You can have all the desire, communication, and technique in the world—but if your environment is working against you, genuine intimacy becomes significantly harder. You can't be vulnerable and present while notifications buzz, laundry piles up, harsh lights glare, and you worry about interruptions. Your nervous system can't fully relax when the environment signals stress. Creating the right environment isn't about luxury—it's about crafting conditions that allow both people

You've been reading about guided intimacy and you think "this is what we need." But now you're stuck on the hardest part: how do you bring this up with your partner without it sounding like criticism? How do you suggest trying something new without making them defensive? Talking about wanting to change your sex life is vulnerable. But with the right approach, this conversation can deepen your connection rather than create distance. Here's how to introduce guided intimacy to y

You're having sex with your partner, and suddenly you're thinking about work emails, grocery lists, whether you look okay from this angle, or if your partner is actually enjoying this. Your body is there, but your mind is everywhere else. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Mental distraction during sex is one of the most common complaints—and one people are too embarrassed to admit. Here's what you need to know: a racing mind isn't a personal failing. It's normal. But

In a world that glorifies intense, urgent sex, there's something revolutionary about going slow. Slow and sensual intimacy isn't just a nice alternative—it's often the pathway to deeper pleasure and more profound connection. But most of us don't actually know how to slow down. We rush through foreplay, focus on efficiency over experience, and treat sex like a destination rather than a journey. If you want to rediscover what it feels like to truly be present with your partner,

A sexual bucket list is a way to articulate desires, spark conversations, and give yourselves permission to dream about what your sex life could include. Creating one with your partner can be exciting and connecting—or awkward and challenging if your lists look different. When approached thoughtfully, it becomes more than a to-do list. It's a tool for deepening intimacy, understanding desires, and keeping curiosity alive in your relationship.

You have fantasies or desires that fall outside "standard" sex, but your partner is perfectly happy with vanilla sex and shows no interest in exploring what excites you. Can a vanilla partner become kinky? Can someone who's never expressed interest in kink learn to enjoy it? The answer is complicated and deeply individual. Some people can expand their sexual repertoire and discover new interests. Others have boundaries that won't change. Let's talk about what's possible, what

You're tired of always being the one to initiate. You want to feel desired, pursued, chosen. But how do you make that happen without nagging? The truth is, you can't "make" your partner initiate sex. But you can create conditions where they're more likely to, remove barriers that might be getting in the way, and have conversations that help them understand why initiation matters to you. Here's what actually works.

We're thrilled to announce the release of "Guided: Why We All Need a Guide in the Bedroom"—a groundbreaking book revealing how guided intimacy can transform your relationship from predictable to electric. After eight years of marriage and three kids, we'd fallen into maintenance mode. Then one Tuesday night, we discovered the transformative power of guided intimacy. This isn't about techniques—it's about presence, and guidance is what makes that presence possible.

If your partner has significantly lower libido than you, should you just stop having sex altogether? Stop initiating to avoid making them feel pressured? The question comes from genuine care—you don't want to impose on someone who doesn't want it. Here's the complicated truth: complete abstinence is almost never the right answer for couples where one partner has lower (but not zero) libido. But neither is maintaining a dynamic where one person feels pressured and the other fe

You initiate sex and your partner seems neutral—not excited, not turned on. Maybe they need convincing until you start touching them, and then suddenly they're into it. If this is your experience, you're dealing with responsive desire. And if you don't understand what that is, you're probably feeling rejected and unwanted. Here's what you need to know: responsive desire is not low desire or lack of attraction. It's simply a different arousal pattern, and understanding it can