Tips & Tools

There's a category of intimate accessories that rarely gets discussed openly but that some couples credit with transforming their sex lives: penis sleeves. Here's honest, shame-free information about why some couples love them, what benefits they offer, and how to know if they might be right for your relationship.

You know you "should" have sex more often. So you agree to it, go through the motions, and you're glad when it's over. Or maybe you're always initiating and can tell your partner is just doing you a favor—not really there, not enjoying it. When sex becomes obligation, it poisons the connection it's meant to create. But the obligatory feeling isn't really about sex. It's a symptom of deeper issues in how you're relating, communicating, and understanding desire. Let's talk abou

Before kids, you had spontaneous sex and uninterrupted time together. Then kids arrived and everything changed. Now you're exhausted, touched-out, and your partner has become a co-parent first and lover second. The idea of sex feels like one more thing on an impossible to-do list. This is one of the most challenging transitions couples face. But it's possible to reignite passion after kids—not by returning to your pre-kid relationship, but by building something new that honor

You're having sex with your partner, and suddenly you're thinking about work emails, grocery lists, whether you look okay from this angle, or if your partner is actually enjoying this. Your body is there, but your mind is everywhere else. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Mental distraction during sex is one of the most common complaints—and one people are too embarrassed to admit. Here's what you need to know: a racing mind isn't a personal failing. It's normal. But

A sexual bucket list is a way to articulate desires, spark conversations, and give yourselves permission to dream about what your sex life could include. Creating one with your partner can be exciting and connecting—or awkward and challenging if your lists look different. When approached thoughtfully, it becomes more than a to-do list. It's a tool for deepening intimacy, understanding desires, and keeping curiosity alive in your relationship.

You have fantasies or desires that fall outside "standard" sex, but your partner is perfectly happy with vanilla sex and shows no interest in exploring what excites you. Can a vanilla partner become kinky? Can someone who's never expressed interest in kink learn to enjoy it? The answer is complicated and deeply individual. Some people can expand their sexual repertoire and discover new interests. Others have boundaries that won't change. Let's talk about what's possible, what

We're thrilled to announce the release of "Guided: Why We All Need a Guide in the Bedroom"—a groundbreaking book revealing how guided intimacy can transform your relationship from predictable to electric. After eight years of marriage and three kids, we'd fallen into maintenance mode. Then one Tuesday night, we discovered the transformative power of guided intimacy. This isn't about techniques—it's about presence, and guidance is what makes that presence possible.

There's a stark difference between couples who can talk openly about sex and couples who can't. Sex-positive couples aren't necessarily having more sex or wilder sex—they have a framework for approaching sexuality with openness, curiosity, and communication rather than shame or silence. The benefits extend far beyond the bedroom. When couples embrace sex-positivity together, they build stronger communication, deeper trust, and more satisfying relationships overall.

There's a pervasive narrative that men who aren't getting enough sex become irritable and difficult—give them regular sex and suddenly they're pleasant and easy to be around. But is it actually true? Does sex make men less grouchy? The answer is more nuanced than "yes, sex fixes everything" or "no, that's nonsense." Let's dig into what's actually happening when sex (or lack thereof) affects male mood and behavior.

The idea of recording yourselves during sex can range from thrilling to terrifying. For some couples, it's an exciting way to add novelty and capture chemistry. For others, it triggers immediate anxiety about how they look or where footage might end up. Both reactions are valid. Recording intimate moments can enhance your sex life—but only if you approach it thoughtfully, communicate clearly, and prioritize safety alongside the fun. Here's how to do it right.

The internet is full of claims about anal orgasms. Some people swear they're the most intense orgasms possible. Others insist they're just hype. So let's cut through the noise: Are anal orgasms real? Can anyone have them? What's actually happening physiologically? Here's the truth: anal orgasms are absolutely real for some people, completely elusive for others, and somewhere in between for many. Let's break down what we actually know.

Let's be honest: the idea of talking during sex makes a lot of people want to crawl under the covers and hide. You're worried you'll sound ridiculous, kill the mood, or end up sounding like a bad porn parody. We get it. Dirty talk feels vulnerable in a way that physical intimacy somehow doesn't. But here's what you're missing: talking during sex can transform your intimate life, deepen connection, and yes, be incredibly hot—even if it feels awkward at first.

Let's start with the answer you're looking for: yes, masturbation is good for your health. Not just "not harmful"—actually beneficial in multiple ways. Despite being one of the most common sexual behaviors, there's still a surprising amount of shame and misinformation around it. Let's clear the air with what the science actually says about masturbation and men's health.

If your sex drive has been MIA lately, you're not alone. Low libido is one of the most common concerns people bring to their doctors, therapists, and late-night Google searches. And here's the thing—it's almost never about just one issue. Your libido is connected to everything: stress, sleep, relationship dynamics, hormones, and what's happening in your head. The good news? There are real, actionable ways to rediscovering your desire.

Let's talk about something that still makes a lot of men uncomfortable: anal play and prostate stimulation. If you just felt yourself tense up reading that, you're not alone. But here's the thing—your body doesn't care about outdated hangups, and neither should you. The prostate can produce incredibly intense orgasms that feel different from anything you've experienced before. Here's why it deserves a place in your bedroom.

Medical-grade silicone dildos ranging from 4 to 6 inches in length and 1 to 1.5 inches in diameter make ideal first toys for beginners, providing comfortable penetration without overwhelming new users. When couples approach dildos as tools for shared exploration rather than replacements, they typically report enhanced intimacy, improved sexual communication, and expanded pleasure that brings them closer together rather than creating competition or anxiety about adequacy.

The medical standard for measuring penis length involves measuring along the top of the erect penis from the pubic bone (pressing through the fat pad) to the tip of the glans, typically yielding measurements between 4.5 and 6.5 inches for most men. Common measurement errors like measuring from the underside, not pressing to the bone, or measuring while partially erect create inflated numbers that distort men's perception of normal size and fuel unnecessary anxiety that affect

Research suggests women generally prefer girth over length for vaginal pleasure, with anatomical factors explaining why circumference creates more pleasurable fullness and clitoral stimulation than depth alone. However, enormous individual variation means averages don't predict any specific woman's preferences, and factors like arousal level, position, emotional connection, and sexual skill typically matter far more than measurements for determining actual satisfaction.

The Fleshlight can be more than a solo toy. With the right approach, it becomes a tool for shared exploration that enhances rather than competes with intimate connection. From guided sessions and power dynamics to multi-sensory integration and thoughtful aftercare, these strategies help couples incorporate toy use in ways that build vulnerability, trust, and mutual pleasure while addressing common concerns about replacement or disconnection.

Using a penis pump 15-30 minutes before sexual activity can provide temporary enhancement in size, firmness, and sensitivity that benefits both partners during intimate encounters. Pre-sex pumping requires careful timing, proper communication with partners, and safe technique to maximize physical and psychological benefits while ensuring smooth transitions into intimate activity that enhances rather than interrupts romantic connection.