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Why Some Couples Love Being Watched During Sex (The Psychology Behind Exhibitionism)
There's a sexual interest that exists far more commonly than most people realize: couples who enjoy being watched during intimate moments. Here's why being watched creates intensity for some couples, what they report experiencing, and how people navigate it safely.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 22, 202514 min read


The Initiation Gap: When One Partner Always Starts Sex (And Why It's Killing Your Intimacy)
There's a dynamic that exists in most long-term relationships but rarely gets discussed: one partner almost always initiates sex, and the other almost always responds. Here's why this pattern develops, what damage it creates, and how couples can address it in ways that work for both partners.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 19, 202513 min read


Great Sex When He's Smaller: Positions and Approaches That Actually Work
There's a topic that generates enormous anxiety but gets discussed mostly in hushed tones: what do you do when the man has a smaller penis? Here's honest, practical information for couples—positions, techniques, and approaches that make sex incredibly satisfying, without shame.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 18, 202511 min read


The Real Guide to Giving Great Oral Sex (What Actually Works Versus What You've Heard)
One of the most common questions about sexuality is: "How do I give better head?" Here's the truth about oral sex—there's an enormous gap between generic advice and what actually works for specific individuals. This is about understanding real principles that make oral sex pleasurable.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 17, 202512 min read


Why So Many People Are Using THC for Sex (And What You Should Know Before Trying It)
If you spend time on Reddit or cannabis-friendly communities, you've noticed lots of people talking about using THC before or during sex. Here's why this trend exists, what people report experiencing, what research shows, and what couples should know before exploring cannabis and sexuality together.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 16, 202511 min read


When Can You Have Sex After Childbirth? (What Doctors Say Versus What Actually Happens)
One of the questions almost every couple asks after childbirth is: when can we have sex again? Here's honest information about what the recovery timeline actually looks like, what factors beyond healing time matter, and how to navigate the return to intimacy.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 15, 20259 min read


Where Is a Woman's G-Spot? (And Why Finding It Matters Less Than You Think)
If you've ever searched for information about the G-spot, you've encountered conflicting information. Here's what the G-spot actually is, where it's located, how to explore it, and why individual variation matters more than any single technique.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 12, 20259 min read


How Often Do Married Couples Actually Have Sex? (The Real Numbers Might Surprise You)
One of the most common anxieties among married couples is whether they're having sex "enough." Here's what research actually shows about sexual frequency in marriage—and why the gap between expectation and reality is causing unnecessary anxiety.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 11, 20259 min read


Gooning and Gen Z: Understanding a Sexual Practice That's Confusing Everyone Over 30
There's a term that keeps appearing in conversations about Gen Z sexuality that leaves older generations confused: gooning. Here's what this practice of extended masturbation sessions actually is, why it's popular with younger people, and what it tells us about changing sexual culture.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 10, 20258 min read


Why Foot Content Is Trending Right Now (And What It Says About Changing Sexual Interests)
If you've been paying attention to trends in sexual content searches, you've noticed something unexpected: feet are everywhere. Here's why foot content is having a mainstream moment in the 2020s and what this trend tells us about broader patterns in sexual interest and expression.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 9, 20257 min read


Why Overheard Intimacy Turns People On (And What It Means for Your Relationship)
There's a particular type of arousal that most people experience but rarely discuss: being turned on by overheard intimacy. Here's why audio is often more arousing than visuals, and what couples can learn from understanding their responses to sound during sex.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 8, 20259 min read


Prostate Play: What Couples Need to Know About the Male G-Spot
There's a form of intimate exploration that generates intense curiosity and equally intense anxiety among couples: prostate stimulation. Here's honest, shame-free information about anatomy, technique, safety, and how couples can approach prostate play in ways that strengthen their relationship.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 5, 202512 min read


Why Couples Keep Raving About the Njoy Wand (And What Makes It Worth the Investment)
There's a particular intimate accessory that keeps coming up in conversations with couples who've transformed their sex lives: the njoy Pure Wand. Here's why this expensive steel toy has such passionate advocates, what it offers for both G-spot and prostate stimulation, and how couples can explore it together.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 4, 202511 min read


Why Some Couples Swear By Penis Sleeves (And How to Know If They're Right for You)
There's a category of intimate accessories that rarely gets discussed openly but that some couples credit with transforming their sex lives: penis sleeves. Here's honest, shame-free information about why some couples love them, what benefits they offer, and how to know if they might be right for your relationship.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 3, 20259 min read


The Performance Anxiety Epidemic No One's Talking About—And How Couples Are Fighting Back
We don't talk about it at dinner parties or on social media. We barely acknowledge it to our partners. But performance anxiety during sex is affecting a staggering number of people in relationships—and it's killing intimacy in ways that most conventional advice completely fails to address. Here's the scale of the problem, why it's gotten worse, and how couples are finally fighting back.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 2, 202511 min read


Why Couples Are Turning to Audio Guidance During Sex—And the Science Says It Works
After eight years of marriage, my wife Brittney and I had become efficient co-parents—but we'd lost the spark. Then we discovered guided audio intimacy, and it changed everything. Here's why thousands of couples are turning to external guidance during intimate moments, and what the science says about why it actually works.

Scott Schwertly
Dec 1, 20259 min read


What Meditation Did for Mental Health, Guided Intimacy Is Doing for Relationships
Twenty years ago, if you told someone you used a meditation app, they'd think you'd joined a cult. Today, guided meditation is mainstream wellness. I believe guided intimacy is following the same trajectory—from weird fringe practice to essential relationship tool. Here's why guided intimacy is the wellness movement's next frontier, and what the meditation parallel teaches us about normalizing guidance for couples' connection.

Scott Schwertly
Nov 28, 202512 min read


I Built an App to Save My Marriage. Now, Couples Everywhere Are Using It.
I didn't set out to become an entrepreneur in the intimacy space. But when my wife Brittney and I were heading toward roommate mode after eight years of marriage, I discovered something that transformed our relationship. I couldn't keep it to myself—so I built Coelle. This is the story of how desperation, discovery, and a stubborn refusal to accept "this is just how it is" led me to help thousands of couples reconnect.

Scott Schwertly
Nov 27, 202512 min read


Pegging: The Conversation Couples Need to Have About Role Reversal and Pleasure
There's a particular form of intimacy that generates intense curiosity and equally intense anxiety: pegging. For some couples, it's something they've been curious about for years but never discussed. Here's what couples need to know about the conversation, the psychology of role reversal, safety considerations, and how to approach pegging in ways that strengthen rather than strain your relationship.

Scott Schwertly
Nov 26, 202514 min read


Exploring Anal Play Safely: What Couples Need to Know About Communication and Boundaries
There are certain topics that most couples think about but rarely discuss out loud. Anal play is one of them. Maybe you've been curious for years but never knew how to bring it up. Maybe your partner mentioned interest and you froze, unsure how to respond. Here's what couples need to know about exploring anal play safely, with proper attention to communication, boundaries, and hygiene.

Scott Schwertly
Nov 25, 202513 min read
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